I Love Your Blog – But Not You

One of the unanticipated perks of being a mom blogger is all of the amazingly talented, funny, witty and inspirational women that I’ve gotten to know.  In New York I am fortunate to have a group of women (and a couple men too) whom I regularly see at events or record with or work with for days on end.  When I head out of town for an event or a conference I am usually extra excited because it means I will meet women whose work I read regularly and I feel like I know even though I’ve never actually seen them face to face.  So it is strange when I meet someone in this world and I really don’t like them.  But, it happens – and it’s very uncomfortable.

Celebrities often talk about how regular people assume that they know them because they relate so much to their character on TV or in films.  I think the same thing happens with bloggers.  While many journalists have followings bloggers are more personal in their writing for the most part.  Even political women bloggers tend to take on a personal note, sometimes relating their views back to their family or community.   When you add in the fact that bloggers feel banded together by being outside of mainstream media there is an added feeling of familiarity among the group.  I have had moments when social media made my day – when Judy Blume tweeted me, when Diane Ravitch retweeted me to name a few.  It’s not that I felt like Judy Blume and I were suddenly BFF (though my 11 year–old inner self hoped really, really hard for that) it’s that there was a feeling that this person whom I admired got me.  For that instant I was recognized by someone that mattered to me on a gut-level of giddiness.  When the opposite happens it’s like a slap-tweet (sleet?) in the face.

Last year at BlogHer I had that discomforting experience.  I met a blogger whom I admired online.  I sometimes dabbled in her niche, but it’s not my regular beat.  We both wrote for several common outlets.  We had commented back and forth occasionally – though looking back I think I commented on her posts more than the other way around.  But when I met her at BlogHer she was beyond dismissive.  There were brighter lights to stand near and she clearly had an agenda in mind for that day – and it was all about getting to some very big non-blog fish.  I get that.  But it totally changed my view of her and her blog.  I still read it when a tweet or FB post grabs my eye but I don’t participate in her community.  I also don’t respond to her fairly regular calls to action on her behalf – voting, entering giveaways, retweeting, etc.  I realized that while her blog is about bigger picture issues, she herself (at least to me) is all about promoting herself.  And that’s fine.  I just have to come to terms with the fact that I can like the blog without liking the blogger.  Maybe that means blogging really has entered the mainstream after all.

Tech Mom Bloggers Take On CE Week

The CEA Line Shows hit NYC last week and this year mom bloggers had their own day at the show sponsored by Techlicious.  It seemed like the whole city was taken over by CE Week with events every night and meetings every day.  But the highlight for me was speaking on a panel with 2 of my Blogging Angels co-hosts, Nancy Friedman and Amy Oztan.  Our 4th Angel, Heidi Leder was busy organizing the event and making sure it all went as planned.

Our panel, moderated by Suzanne Kantra, Co-founder and Editor in Chief of Techlicious, was entitled How to Work With Mom Bloggers.  I was thrilled to see such a large crowd and we had a jam packed 1/2 hour of giving the low down on how to pitch, work and follow through with mom bloggers, and how not to.   It got some great press and hopefully a lot of PR reps and business owners walked out with real, practical information – at the very least they should know that they’ll have to pay for any real sort of campaign and start an email with “Dear Mommy Blogger.”

We got some great press coverage of the event which you can see here in Dealerscope and CEA Digital Dialogue.

We spent the day at the Techlicious events – from Suzanne’s great presentation on the best audio and video tools for bloggers.  (I need to check out the iRig microphone first hand and the Zoom Q3HD video camera) to a very informative and truthful discussion with Chad Latz of Cohn & Wolfe about how they are approaching the mom influencer community.  Then we hit the floor to see all the latest gadgets and tech products.  Nothing terribly new to report since most of these products we saw at CES, now some of them have come to fruition.  The Toshiba Thrive Tablet was a highlight since it’s got loads of connectivity options like an HDMI, USB and mini USB ports as well as SD card slot.

But otherwise the product that elicited the most oohs and cameras flashing was the iGuy from Speck Products.  There’s something about personifying your tech that is always ridiculously appealing.  Don’t know what I’m talking about?  Check out this video all about the iGuy…

The New York Times Strikes Again

So, in case you’re one of those people who skims the whole Sunday Magazine section of the NY Times just to get to the crossword puzzle I’m here to fill you in on an article lighting up the mom blogosphere and Twitter.  Queen of the Mommy Bloggers, an article by Lisa Belkin, a woman whose journalistic cred I think is well established and deserved, hit the stands and the web and caused an enormous whirlwind of discussion.  This is the kind of thing that would usually get my fingers typing all on their own, but luckily for me a blogger extraordinaire, Liz Gumbinner – MOM 101 – beat me to it.  It’s not just that she wrote a great response; it’s that she wrote exactly what I would’ve written, only shorter, better and with a much more even temper.  She’s fabulous like that.

So, click on over and read her wonderful defense of being a writer.  Not a blogger.  Not a mom.  A writer.

Get A Job, Bloggers!

IOU – or Maybe Not. Figuring out the Blogger-Brand Relationship


New York City Serenade

Image by joiseyshowaa via Flickr


Bloggers in New York City are lucky.  There is no other way to say it.  Events are easy to come by because all of the brands are well represented in NYC and their PR people are great at throwing parties, lunches, breakfasts, outings and round tables that they like to fill with bloggers – particularly mom bloggers.  Add to that the TV shows that film here – Martha Stewart, Nate Berkus, The View, The Today Show, etc. and you get a lot of media opportunities not afforded to your average blogger.  Add this to all of the PR pitches for giveaways, sponsored posts and product reviews and you can stack your blog with nothing but posts about events and swag.

But what if you don’t want to write about it?  What do you owe a brand when you attend an event?  Do you have to be brand loyal if you’re an unpaid “ambassador?”  The Blogging Angels tackle these issues head on this week.  And not surprisingly don’t all feel the same way about these issues.  Listen in or subscribe on iTunes and let us know what you think!

Mombloggers Heeding the Call

I’ve had an overwhelming response from mombloggers in real life, on twitter and here on my blog to my Momblogger is Not a Dirty Word post.  It’s been incredibly gratifying to hear from all of these writers and bloggers who are also funny, dedicated and hard working moms.  But, one of my favorite things to come out of that post was this cool MommyBlogger button created by Truthful Mommy.  You can head on over to her blog, The Truth About Motherhood and grab the button for yourself so you can tell the world that you are proud, damn it!