MomBlogger is Not a Dirty Word (No Matter What Some People Say)

I admit I’ve cringed when someone has introduced me at an event as a “mom-blogger.” I purposefully didn’t pick a blog name with mom in it because I was hoping it would encompass more than just my mom life.  You know, that child-centered, boring life filled with nothing but grocery shopping, meal preparation, cleaning and playground politics?  Who would want to be that?  I wanted to talk about politics, travel, culture – you know all of those things that made my life and me interesting before I had kids? Before I was a mom.  Or worse -  a mommy.  But of course that’s just stupid.  Because the one thing I realized as I’ve gotten over the insecurity of being a Stay-at-Home-Mom and embraced being a Blogger-at-Home-Mom is that being a mom colors everything I do and write, just as all of my other interests color who I am as a mom.

Over the last year the title of mom-blogger has taken on a particularly nasty and dirty connotation.  You’re a brand whore,  a swag hag.  You will write for free for anyone who asks because you’re just soooo excited that someone actually asked.  Aw shucks, you’re just happy to have the honor of hosting a giveaway and being a brand ambassador because you are gullible.  You are a little Sally Field running around declaring, “They like me they really like me!” And then someone (usually a woman who was once a “momblogger” but is now leading the charge to declare mombloggers an immoral, insipid bunch)  will pop up on twitter and declare that you dear momblogger are actually a sucker.  You are a cog in the PR machine and you don’t even know it.   You have brought shame upon womankind because you are a…MomBlogger.

This is ridiculous.  You can be whatever the hell you want to be online.  It’s also insulting to every mom who happens to be a blogger and every blogger who happens to be a mom.  I guess if you called yourself a parenting blogger that would be acceptable.  I just wrote about the power of women bloggers and the incredible experience I had at The White House Project day at BlogHer.  There is strength in numbers and the online reach of moms who blog is exponential and real.  Sarah Palin isn’t making viral videos aimed at online moms for nothing.  Deride her if you will, but it will be a scary day if she is more successful at coalescing moms’ online power before the more liberal among us do.  I don’t want to hear another blogger putting down mombloggers in the name of feminism when it’s really just good old-fashioned misogynistic self-serving BS.

So I propose taking back the name MomBlogger and wearing it with pride.  Names have a way of losing their derogatory power when they’re embraced by the very people at whom they are aimed.  This is true whether its women taking over “chick” and “babe”, Bitch Magazine or the Jewish magazine Hebe.  Turning a dirty word on its head tends to disarm the people hurling the insult in the first place.   So yeah, I’m not going to shy away the next time someone calls me a momblogger, I’m going to smile and say yes I am.  They can read my blog and see who I am and where my interests lie, but I’ll be damned if I’ll let somebody else make me feel bad about the mom part of me.

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16 thoughts on “MomBlogger is Not a Dirty Word (No Matter What Some People Say)

  1. I think I introduced you on my web site as a Mommy Blogger. (pause) I did… I fixed it. I changed it to “loudmouthed New Yorker”.

    I wouldn’t dare! I’d get a kickboxing move to the mouth if I tried such a stunt!

    It was great meeting all of you at the Times. It was very gracious of all of you to not throw things at me during tour. Or, if you did, you all missed. (grinning)

    Great writing! It’s nice to read a well presented and organized article! I’m so accustomed to reading mine.

    I will be a regular!

    Spuds

    • It was great to meet you too. The dad bloggers out there are as much of a mixed bunch as the moms, so it’s always great to meet a dad who is the real deal. Plus I love your blog! Makes me wonder what all those kids would do with all that energy and craftiness if they lived in the city…

  2. I LOVE IT. I have a teaching degree; a Interior Design certification; a law degree — but my best and most important work is being a MOM because I was home for the first 18years and my kids turned out GREAT. After you do your mommying you can pick something else…..

  3. This is a great post! And something that my BlogHer buddy and I were debating at length while we were there… the whole “mommy blogger” title does seem to drip with condescension. And yet both of us our moms. We do write about our families in a blog. It’s a bit strange that we can’t just be “bloggers” but when I get introduced as a “mommy blogger” at an event, I do the same as you — hold my head up high.

  4. I started reading this post while waiting in line at Starbucks – and I nearly missed my order!

    I started noticing some ‘twitter babble’ about this very topic in the last few days – and thought “where is this coming from?”

    Then I thought: “is this a post-Blogher backlash?”

    Mombloggers (there, I said it!) have grown in strength and numbers; and with any group that rises in popularity and power, there will be detractors. Not everybody likes a winner; some people feel better about knocking them, than actually joining or at least seeing what makes them tick.

    For me, this post is less about being a SAHM, but more about validating the existence of a powerful group of woman.

    Like it or not, moms (stay-at-home or working) are here to stay…and whose time has come to have their say.

  5. Kudos to you for a well-written article. I went to another blogging conference a few months about a separate category of blogging. I was really looking forward to hanging out with the mommy bloggers there. It surprised me that I was told be more than one of them that it isn’t cool to term oneself as a mommy blogger. Like you, I disagree. I’m a mom, I’m a blogger. I’ve embraced my place in this wonderful community. I will never shy away from the title, either.

  6. Just saw a really great production of “The Taming of the Shrew” last night. What I especially loved about it was that the woman playing Kate just kind of lived inside that final speech, looked at the audience and dared to stand there and say those words with conviction. Now. In 2010. Not sure why your post makes me think of that. Because you’re not remotely saying your partner is your lord, your life your keeper. You are in no way Kate. You are just, as my friend who played Kate did, standing in your shoes saying “I am who I am, and so there.” And I like it.

  7. A woman I know in my neighborhood (who doesn’t blog) asked me with a wrinkled nose today if I was a mommy blogger. I said, “Yep! I sure am and I love it too!” I went on to tell her about all of the amazing and different women I have met through blogging and Twitter. I don’t think she’s been out of the same circle of people in a very long time and while she was trying to be snide, my joy and enthusiasm completely trounced her attitude. I am happy to be a mom and a blogger. A MomBlogger!

    This is such a great post. Thank you!

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  9. I don’t mind being called a “Mom Blogger,” but I HATE being called a “Mommy Blogger.” Then again, I don’t like being called “Mommy,” either. My kids call me “Mama,” or more recently, “Mooooooommmmm.” It has nothing to do with a stigma and everything to do with how dismissive it sounds to me. Yeah, I probably have issues.

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